It’s been a very busy few weeks in the Anna Marsh Nutrition / Ladies that Lift household. There is just a lot going on.
>> I’m working on an exciting new project or actually, couple of projects – all the be revealed soon!
>> There is the continuous day to day work of coaching clients, admin & marketing that comes with my current business
>> I’ll be running my first ever retreat in Tuscany in 10 days time with 10 amazing women who I can’t wait to meet. It has been fully booked since April so if you’d like to attend one of my retreats then keep an eye out for next year.
>> and finally, I travelled to London this weekend to attend a one day training workshop on body image. (I also did a little shopping in Anthropologie – see picture above – with a gift voucher given to me by my clients as a wedding gift – Thank You Ladies as I know many of you will read this! x)
I must admit, I didn’t quite know what to expect from the workshop. I was worried the information might be a bit old fashioned and not relevant to my client base. I don’t know why I created this story that it was potentially going to be a negative experience but all I can say is…
What an amazing day with so many insights into the mindset behind dieting and weight loss.
There were so many takeaways from the day and I intend to use what I have learnt as part of abody image workshop on my upcoming retreat. It goes above and beyond the scope of a mere email to communicate these learnings to you, but I’d like to share with you a simple gem from the day and maybe another one in a future email…
Don’t let a 5 year old run your life
Within us we all have a parent, a child and an adult. We can be any one of these at any given time although perhaps we may tend towards being more one than the other or, certain situations, or the people who we are with, may influence which one we choose to be.
A good give away to which one we are is the language we use.
I experience this in coaching.
Sometimes I coach women who are “adult”, they use empowering language, they are high vibe and are ready to learn from me but also keen to work things out for themselves and take responsibility for their actions.
A while ago I was really struggling with a few clients and I wasn’t sure what I was doing wrong or what I could be doing better to help that person/persons.
I was talking about these challenges with a mentor on a recent Mastermind event I attended. The mentor was actually Mike Savage, one of Tony Robbins team and therefore, probably one of the best coaches in the world!
“If you ever feel like it is very draining to coach someone, then you are not coaching their higher-self, you are coaching their child. That person, might need to the tools to move from child to adult”.
It completely made sense to me.
We all speak to ourselves every day. In fact, we talk to ourselves more so than anyone else!
How often do you say “I must”, “I should”, “I’ll try”, “I could”, “I ought to…”
“I’d love to…”, “I will”, “I’d really enjoy it if…”
When you use the former terms, you could be talking to yourself in the toddler brain and oftenthe toddler brain might have a different desire to the adult brain.
It’s like your toddler brain is the brain that wants to binge on the chocolate bars when the adult or parent brain would like to lose 10lbs and fit into a bikini.
I also think it’s the toddler brain talking when I get those all too familiar complaints like; it’s too hard, it’s so much work, it takes so much time, I just want to go out and have fun with my friends and not worry about food.
Imagine the toddler who throws a strop at the supermarket because he or she wanted a chocolate bar or an ice cream or a bag of crisps.
Is it possible that your brain does the same thing?
There is nothing wrong with having a toddler brain, children are a lot more carefree and naturally open to fun. This is an element that we all probably would love to have more of in our life.
But what happens if we let our toddler brain make important decisions about food, health and our lives.
We might not get the best possible outcome.
If we allow the adult to take over we get;
It’s tough, but I can do this!
It will take time and effort, but it is worth it!
I can still go out with my friends and have fun as well as reach my health and weight loss goals. I will make a plan to make it work.
So the take away from this is – listen to your language. Not just the things you say to yourself, but how you choose to say it.
That’s all from me today, I hope you have a fabulous week ahead.
PS. If you are interested in working with myself and receiving coaching to accelerate your health and weight loss goals AND create sustainable change – find out more about what I offer and what I do HERE.